Walking into church for the first time can feel intimidating. From wondering what to wear to not knowing when to stand, new visitors have lots of questions but often feel too awkward to ask. This honest Q&A addresses the real concerns newcomers have about church with warmth, humor, and practical advice. Come as you are—we’ve …
“…but in your hearts sanctify Christ as Lord. Always be ready to make your defense to anyone who demands from you an accounting for the hope that is in you, yet do it with gentleness and respect.” – 1 Peter 3:15 (NRSVUE)
Walking into church for the first time can feel like entering a foreign country without a guidebook. Between the unfamiliar rituals, the inside jokes, and that moment when everyone seems to know exactly when to stand up (but you don’t), it’s natural to have questions. The good news? We’ve heard them all before, and we’re here to help.
Here are real answers to the questions you’ve been wondering about but maybe felt too awkward to ask.
Q: What should I wear to church? I don’t want to stand out for the wrong reasons.
A: Here’s the beautiful truth: God cares far more about your heart than your outfit. Whether you show up in jeans and a t-shirt or a three-piece suit, you’re welcome here. Our congregation includes everyone from folks in work clothes who came straight from their Saturday shift to families in their Sunday best. The only dress code that matters is coming as you are.
Pro tip: If you’re still nervous, business casual is always a safe bet, but don’t let clothing keep you from coming.
Q: When everyone stands up or sits down, how do I know what to do? I feel like I’m always a beat behind.
A: You’re not alone in this dance! Even longtime members sometimes miss their cue. Most of our movements are prompted by the pastor, but don’t worry about perfect timing. Follow along as best you can, and remember that worship isn’t a performance—it’s participation. No one is judging your choreography.
Q: Do I have to put money in the offering plate? What if I can’t afford it?
A: Absolutely not. Giving is an act of worship for those who choose to participate, not a membership fee. If the offering plate comes your way and you’re not ready to give, simply pass it along with a smile. Many of our most faithful members went through seasons where they couldn’t contribute financially, and that’s completely okay.
Remember: Your presence is a gift to our community, and that’s more valuable than money.
Q: What if I don’t know the songs? Everyone else seems to know all the words.
A: Most of our song lyrics are displayed on screens, but don’t feel pressured to sing if you’re not comfortable. Worship can be listening, humming along, or simply being present with the community. Some of our best worship happens in the quiet moments when someone is taking it all in for the first time.
Fun fact: Even our choir sometimes forgets the words to familiar songs. We’re all learning together.
Q: Can I bring my kids? What if they make noise or need to leave during the service?
A: Please, bring your kids! We believe church is a family affair, and the sound of children is the sound of a living, growing church. We have a quiet or cry room if you need it, but don’t feel like you have to use it. Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me,” and we take that seriously.
Parent hack: Our ushers are parents too and can point you toward family-friendly seating and resources.
Q: I don’t know much about the Bible. Will I be lost during the sermon?
A: Our pastor teaches with newcomers in mind, explaining context and providing background for biblical references. You don’t need a theology degree to benefit from the message. Come with an open heart and a curious mind—that’s all the preparation you need.
Q: What if someone asks me to pray out loud or answer a question? I’m not ready for that.
A: No one will put you on the spot. If there’s ever a moment for public participation, it’s always voluntary. A simple “I’d rather listen today” or “I’m still learning” is perfectly acceptable. Our community values authenticity over performance.
Good to know: Many of our longtime members still prefer to listen rather than speak publicly, and that’s completely normal.
Q: I’ve made mistakes in my past. Will I be judged here?
A: Church isn’t a museum for perfect people; it’s a hospital for healing hearts. We’re all works in progress, and everyone here has a story that includes both struggles and grace. You’ll find this community is far more interested in walking alongside you than judging where you’ve been.
Truth: Some of our most impactful leaders are people who’ve walked through difficult seasons and found hope on the other side.
Q: What if I have questions about faith that might seem controversial or difficult?
A: Questions are welcome here, even the tough ones. Faith that’s never questioned is faith that’s never grown. Our pastor is very willing to walk through doubts, concerns, and complex theological questions with patience and care.
Encouragement: Asking hard questions often leads to deeper, more authentic faith.
Q: How do I know if this church is right for me?
A: Give it time. Visit a few times, attend different types of services or events, and see how you feel. The right church will feel like a place where you can grow spiritually, serve others, and build meaningful relationships. Trust your instincts and don’t rush the decision.
Suggestion: Try attending a Bible study, learning event, or volunteer opportunity to get a better sense of the community beyond Sunday morning.
One More Thing…
If you have questions that didn’t make this list, please ask them. Send us an email, catch the pastor after the service, or talk to someone in the community. We promise there’s no such thing as a silly question when it comes to faith and church.
Remember, everyone in our congregation was new once. We’ve all had that moment of wondering where the bathroom is, whether we’re supposed to say “Amen” out loud, or if it’s okay to check our phone during the announcements. (The answers: ask anyone, whenever you feel moved to, and please do keep it on silent, but feel free to share something from the sermon or readings!)
We’re genuinely excited to meet you and walk alongside you, wherever you are on your spiritual journey. Come as you are, stay as long as you’d like, and know that you’re always welcome here.
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